A man recently looked for support on Reddit’s AITA after supporting his brother to his Dad.
The OP’s brother invested in cryptocurrency and lost a lot of money. The OP’s father, a financial advisor, found out and scolded the brother for not listening to his advice about investing.
The OP got upset with the father for not being helpful and screamed at him, leading to a fight and the father and OP not speaking. OP feels guilty for what happened.
Understandably, he would be upset with how his father treated his brother after losing money from his cryptocurrency investment. The way the father spoke to the brother, using language that was not helpful and instead served to make the brother feel worse, was inappropriate.
However, it’s also important to consider how you responded to the situation. ‘Screaming at the father and telling him that he would be excited to remove him from his life when they are no longer financially dependent on him may not have been the most productive way to handle the situation.’
It’s possible that he was trying to defend his brother and stick up for him in the heat of the moment. However, speaking to the father in such a confrontational and aggressive manner will likely only escalate the situation and make it harder for everyone to resolve.
Living with the father after this argument could also be challenging and uncomfortable. But the father likely has the best interests at heart and did not deserve the verbal abuse. “YTA. Your dad was right all along. Your brother ignored him and lost a lot of cash.” And “Seriously. His dad is a Financial Advisor.” So the dad probably had some pretty decent advice!
Moving forward, it might be helpful for the author to reflect on why he reacted the way he did and try to understand the father’s perspective as well. While his response to the brother’s situation was not helpful or supportive, it’s possible that he was coming from a place of concern and wanted to prevent the brother from making the same mistake.
Gentlemen, Take Note: 20 Phrases Men Use That Make Women Cringe
You Sound like your Mother
I’m a Nice Guy
You would not have to tell us this if you were that nice! Actions speak louder than words.
Relax
Yeah, if you did not stress me out, I could relax. But one person said, “Could you please just calm down?” – this fits in this bracket too.
You Should Smile More
One woman said, “This makes me want to lock eyes with the id*ot and give them my creepiest smile. Be careful what you wish for.”
I’ll Do it Later
No, you won’t do it later. You never do it.
Is it your Time of the Month?
Infuriating at times but TBF, one woman did welcome this comment when she explained, “Sometimes I need reminding that my hormones are f**ky at the moment.
Make me a Sandwich
One woman did not hold back when she said, “If I ever hear this, I’m sm*cking the person with the bread and the lunch meat.”
Stop being so Emotional
It isn’t endearing for many women when told we overreact. So it may be an idea to listen to and validate our true feelings.
Friend Zone
One woman was apparent on the dating rules when she said, “If you’re friends first and realize you have feelings for them, tell them to see if they’re interested. If they are, yay if not, move on. No one owes you a relationship.”
Pretty Good for a Girl
Yes, being patronized is not good. One person stated, “People get shocked when one of the females changes a tire or does something simple like change the oil.” Girls can do so much more than you think.
Men Are More Logical
We are sure that women can be logical and work in industries that are not solely reliant on men. But, on top of this, it is not ok to say that it is just women who are more emotional.
It’s Not you, It’s Me
A Reddit user exclaimed, “Are you giving ME “it’s not you, it’s me?” I INVENTED IT’S NOT YOU; IT’S ME! IF IT’S ANYONE. IT’S ME!”
It is Because I’m a Man
One woman shared her frustration at men who say “because I’m a GUY” by explaining that this is an “excuse for not knowing how to do things when in reality they just don’t want to learn.”
Using the word “Females” to Describe Women
As one Reddit user said, “these females are so cr*zy” “females these days…”. Not only are you using it grammatically incorrect, but it also makes you look like a sexist pr*ck and is an immediate red flag.” We totally get this.
Boys will be Boys
This is a phrase we have all heard, and it does not excuse poor behavior. One woman used this example to explain how bad this is: “This one grinds my gears so bad. A boy misbehaved towards me in high school, and I was so p*ssed I told the teachers.
I chatted with him and the teacher, and after a while, I saw his face change; he realized what he had done was wrong. Just as we shook hands, the teacher went, “but you know what boys are like….”
Did you say something?
Yes, yes, we did. Listen!
When will dinner be ready
This is something that many women resonate with. Still, one woman has serious advice for a woman who hears this often: “Ditch them if they won’t make dinner themselves. It’s not worth it. Instead, teach them how to cook. You’re not a 1950s housewife. You’re not a servant. You’re not a slave.”
It Might Never Happen
Well, actually…..
You Don’t Need Makeup
Maybe women don’t need make up, but it is a woman’s choice. As one reader puts it, “like duh, sir. We know. But we like it! Let us live.”
Many women in the thread shared their frustration at this one. One commented, “This phrase typically gets used under a deeply misguided impression of what a conversation is about.” Another said, “This almost invariably comes up in situations where nobody has claimed it’s all men.”
We are sure there are many more examples you can think about, but it is agreed that the 20 we just talked to you about are frustrating beyond belief.
What do you think? Did Reddit get this right, or is something significant missing from this list? This article is inspired by the internet and does not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of Because Mom Says.
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The author needs to think and learn to be more respectful. For example, one Redditor comments, “Hopefully, dad replies, ‘Ok, you don’t need my money anymore.’ and cuts them off.” As the author is still financially dependent on the dad.
As for the question of whether he is the a**hole in this situation, it’s a subjective matter. It depends on one’s personal opinions and beliefs. For example, some argue that he was justified in standing up for his brother. In contrast, others might see the behavior as disrespectful to the father.
Regardless of who is at fault, it might be beneficial for the author and the father to have a calm and honest conversation about what happened and how they can both work towards resolving the situation and repairing the relationship.
Ultimately, it’s important to remember that even in the most difficult of situations, it’s possible to approach things with empathy, understanding, and a desire to find a resolution. By focusing on these values, they can hopefully come to a place where everyone can feel heard and respected, and the relationship with the father can be strengthened.
What do you think? Did Reddit get this right, or is something significant missing from this list? This article is inspired by the internet and does not necessarily reflect the views or opinions of Because Mom Says.
Famous for the Wrong Reasons: The 20 Most Disliked Celebrities of Our Time
Reese Witherspoon
Reese may come across as America’s Sweetheart, but she is far from that.
In 2013, the Sweet Home Alabama star was arrested for disorderly conduct and reportedly stated: “Do you know who I am? You’re about to find out.”
Kiefer Sutherland
The 24 actor has a messy history of conducting himself while working.
Freddie Prinze Jr reportedly hated working with him so much on 24 that he considered quitting acting.
Tommy Lee Jones
Tommy Lee has a long-standing rep for not being very cooperative in interviews and not being gracious to fans.
He also had zero chills with co-star Jim Carrey on the set of Batman Forever and reportedly said, “I hate you. I really don’t like you. I cannot sanction your buffoonery.”
Christian Bale
The versatile actor is not a man to be crossed. Just ask the crew of Terminator: Salvation.
Bale was secretly recorded unloading a WHOPPER of a meltdown after a crew member distracted him during a scene. The expletive-ridden tantrum promptly went viral.
Shia LaBeouf
Another star with a reputation as a headache on and off set is Transformers star Shia LaBeouf.
Not only have several former girlfriends come forward about his abusive traits, but he also has a reputation for being awful on set.
Chevy Chase
Chevy Chase may seem like the friendly, lovable, funny dude on tv, but the reality paints a very different picture.
So much so that he was permanently banned from appearing on Saturday Night Live – the show that made him.
Ellen DeGeneres
DeGeneres is vastly carving out a reputation for herself as a bully.
Her “mean streak” is reportedly very well known in Tinseltown, which all but exploded in 2020 when details of her behavior were leaked online.
James Corden
The lovable, cuddly Brit is one of showbiz’s most notorious a**holes.
This all came to a head when Corden was criticized online by the owner of Balthazar restaurant in New York for his treatment of a waiter, which resulted in a restaurant ban.
Bill Murray
Murray may be funny, kooky, and down-to-earth, but his work attitude leaves much to be desired.
Lucy Liu can vouch. The pair had a legendary tiff on the set of Charlie’s Angels after Murray reportedly accused her of being a bad actor.
Katherine Heigl
William Shatner
You know it’s terrible when people call you “Captain J**k” instead of Captain Kirk.
Shatner is known for his less-than-charming behavior with fans and co-stars at conventions.
Zach Braff
Lovable goofball? Not so much….
Braff has a rep for on-set demands rivaling Mariah Carey, including leaving his coffee outside his dressing room to avoid communicating with anyone.
Sandra Bullock
Another Hollywood sweetheart whose treatment of fans has forever tarnished her “good girl” image.
Bullock famously screamed at an army veteran who used a wheelchair when he asked for her autograph.
Mike Myers
Reportedly, Myers’s diva-ish behavior caused the first Shrek movie to be re-made because he decided the lovable ogre should have a Scottish accent.
And what Mike says, goes!
Adam Levine
As well as coming under fire for his adulterous ways in 2022, the Maroon 5 frontman also has an unpleasant fan rule.
The star allegedly doesn’t sign autographs for “ugly chicks.”
Tobey Maguire
Lea Michele
The Glee queen has an ever-growing reputation as being a bully to co-stars.
Many former colleagues have come forward about Michele, including Samantha Ware, who accused the star of “making her life a living hell.”
Christina Aguilera
As well as her iconic voice, Xtina is known for diva antics, bad behavior, and famous feuds.
She reportedly “punched” singer Pink in a nightclub for no reason and makes little effort with interviewers or fans.
Nicolas Cage
Last but not least is our kooky friend, Nic Cage.
This guy’s ego is so big that when he was featured on a talk show in the early 90s, he threw dollar bills at the crowd and underwent a series of baffling macho karate moves.
